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Feature News | Monday, April 18, 2016

Expert: Marriage prep needs to address porn addiction

Widespread Internet pornography use causing great harm to married couples

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This is part of a package of stories to mark April as Child Abuse Prevention Month. They include a longer one on pornography , and a group of stories on bullying.

Philadelphia-based licensed clinical and family therapist Peter Kleponis shows a smartphone - which he says young children should not have - to one of the 70 participants in his workshop on internet pornography and addictions which took place recently at St. Gregory the Great Parish in Plantation.

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Philadelphia-based licensed clinical and family therapist Peter Kleponis shows a smartphone - which he says young children should not have - to one of the 70 participants in his workshop on internet pornography and addictions which took place recently at St. Gregory the Great Parish in Plantation.

PLANTATION | Licensed clinical and family therapist Peter Kleponis believes it’s time for Church-based marriage preparation programs to address pornography addiction and to urge assistance for addicted individuals before they proceed with marriage.

“Given the severe harm caused by pornography in marriage, pre-marriage programs have to address this issue,” said Kleponis during a talk to Catholics at St. Gregory the Great Parish recently.

Typically, young couples in marriage preparation programs will hear about the dangers of drug and alcohol addictions in marriages, but little about pornography.

“We need to talk about this in marriage prep programs because a lot of guys are going into marriage addicted to this stuff,” he said. “If a man is unwilling to address and resolve this conflict a woman should really reconsider marrying him.

“We wouldn’t want a woman marrying an active alcoholic or drug addict, why would we want her marrying an active sex addict? We have to take this seriously.”

The false messages embedded in pornography pollute the user’s perspective of the opposite sex, according to Kleponis, who noted the absurdity of some couples thinking that viewing pornography could help spice up their romantic life.

“This is not about healthy relationships. The damage is an involvement in a fantasy world that undermines your ability to communicate and relate to women in a healthy manner. It interferes with the development of a healthy personality because it fosters selfishness, and it harms your ability to understand and want to make a loving commitment in marriage,” Kleponis said.

Studies show that young adults who are regular consumers of pornography don’t want to get married. Pornography also fosters the “ hook up” culture in which porn consumers use other people for sexual pleasure.

“Pornography does not make you a man. If anything it takes away your manhood,” Kleponis said, noting that the effect of pornography on women is equally damaging and hurtful to a woman’s self-image.

He noted alarming statistics showing that today’s young adult women increasingly admit to being regular consumers of pornographic imagery, whereas older women favor using online tools and social media for anonymous, often dangerous relationships.

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.

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April is Child Abuse Prevention Month.


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